Hi jendp, I'm sorry things happened this way...I understand how hard it is! Me and my H don't have any children either and he completely shut me off his life now after my not so successful DB...I'm not even sure if I DBed at all now seriously....I don't know what to do either, he's not contacting me, and I know that he is having an affair, sometimes I don't even know why i'd even want to fight...but then I start to remember all the sweet moments we had and how he was a good man.....well....Just wanna jump in and tell you that I understand this is so hard, and I hope you will find the right way to save your marriage, and all the advices that I've read on this post so far are really good! I wanna thank you all too for sharing your thoughts.