I know what direction I *want* to go in... but I don't know that I am always going there! My H says he wants the same things I want-- I believe him. And I hope he holds up his end of the deal.
Here's a positive step: We spent his birthday together. He came to our home for a casual dinner, wine, movie. It was the first time he's been here in quite a while and he seemed pretty comfortable overall. He brought the movies and I made the food and bought his favorite dessert. We cuddled, talked a lot about things we've been up to and interested in, he shared a little of his moving plans and a little emotion about what he's going through too. I felt good about it.
I think I'm really trying to find the balance of what will work for both of us-- and to keep my own desire to move past this quickly in check. This is hard. How do we make this a safe place for both of us... and how much can I reasonably expect from him right now?
I agree with you--I have learned more from the people on this BB than I've ever learned anywhere. It's not right that we've had to go through this to become stronger women, but the strength is sure handy. You sound very strong to me.
