What I'd like to say is for any of the LBH's that may read this, not just to "Eyesopen". Over the years, I've seen advice given to LBH's that is suppose to be used as validation, but it just doesn't have the right ring in the ears of a WAW, IMHO. I've seen the same quotation passed down from poster to poster as an example to use.......and perhaps it works at times, but I think H's need to be very cautious of saying "I understand this must be very difficult for you". Don't just throw it in there when you don't know anything else to say, and don't say it when it's totally not the right time or situation. IOW, if she's stressing over taking some test or awaiting for test results....then it would be okay to use that quotation. But to say it when she's talking about filing for a LS or D......it just seems to misfit.
Look how Eyesopen's W responded.
Quote:
M: I understand this must be very difficult for you.
W: Are you being facetious. It is horrible.
Giving this statement could be taken as being very patronizing. Also, if this sounds like you are quoting something out of a book.....something not used from your everyday vocabulary.....may have a false sound to it.
