I may have a chance to see her next we, how can I go about tell her without being to forward.
What is it you want to tell her? If it's anything to do with the R, then don't! Do not initiate any R talks. From the DB tips:
20. All questions about marriage should be put on hold, until your spouse wants to talk about it (which may be a while).
Anytime you talk to her concentrate on being a good listener. Let her do 80% of the talking. Make eye contact, don't interrupt, just listen. Validate her emotions. Don't try to fix her problems.
Originally Posted By: edward113
this was a message I got last night. Like she has done a complete 180, and why doesn't she feel she need to see one, How come it is only me.
WAS's are almost never interested in counseling. Even if they do go, it is very rarely productive. They will latch onto what they want to hear and ignore anything helpful to the R.
Quote:
Seems like I am the only one trying here to make myself a better person.
Read the "It Takes One to Tango" chapter in DR. You ARE the only one. You need to accept it- you're the only one working on the M for now.
Quote:
"Sorry, I keep missing you when you call it is not intentional. I'm ok, just exhausted. Really glad you will have promotion Congrats!Also, really glad you are able to tslk your therapist. Have a great night".
That's actually a great message. If I got something like that from my W I would be quite pleased!
