I never know he is coming (he comes to pick up his mail too), he just sneaks in when I'm at work so he doesn't have to face me.
That sounds pretty lame. Have you considered changing the locks? You might do that and then tell him you did and that he needs to make arrangements with you to get the rest of his stuff (if there is any).
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We have only spoken once in two months and several texts all initiated by him. I know I shouldn't pursue, but I just feel like I am sitting here and letting this happen.
Doesn't sound like there's any progress taking place. Remember, part of DB'ing is taking stock of the sitch every few weeks and making adjustments. If you're not seeing any progress, then change things up. Go ahead and initiate some contact and see how it goes.
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We have so little contact that I feel he will never see the positive changes in me or ever change his mind. I am afraid to contact him at all for fear that I will push him away.
It doesn't really sound like he could be pushed much further away than he already is, so I don't think you've got a lot of risk. And if you make contact and it doesn't go well, you can always go dark again.
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Anyone have advice on how to initiate positive contact to keep the communication lines open? I don't want to talk about R or pursue, just have contact so that if he wants to talk he knows I am here and open to that.
Just call, tell him you hadn't talked in a while and just wanted to say "hello". Keep things light and fluffy, no R or M talk. Just try to be friendly.
