And when she left, she patted me gently on the back and made a comment (like a joke in good mood) about how she'd been struggling with me for so long and NOW I get my [censored] together. I told her I didn't know quite what to say, but that I wasn't always good at keeping things in order.
That's a good sign, she's acknowledging your 180's. Stick with them, it'll take her quite some time before she starts believing they are real and not just a trick to get her back.
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after I ignored her text(nothing important) and didn't contact her for a day this is what followed
First just to clarify, a lot of people misunderstand detaching. It does not mean cutting off contact. It's OK to ignore a text here and there or to be slow in responding, but don't ignore everything because instead of detaching it'll appear to her that you're being cold and distant.
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She looked tired, unshowered and exhausted. Conversation was casual, and she gave me more of my stuff. She walked me to the car said goodbye and walked away. Today she picked him up, along with more of her stuff, said goodbye and walked away.
Now suddenly she is not staying longer than needed, and she feels more distant.
Based on your description it sounds to me like she was really tired. I wouldn't read anything into it other than she wasn't in the mood to have close contact with you.
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I'm having the kid in a couple of days again, and wondering if I should ask her to pick up all her stuff at my place and vica versa. It's depressing for me to exchange a bit of our stuff every time we see each other. Like a constant reminder of our current situation. Any take?
Same thing happened in my sitch, every time my W came by she'd take a few more things. I finally told her she just needed to get everything she wanted and do it ASAP. So she took a day off work and moved the rest of her stuff. I agree with you, the taking a little here and there is just an emotional drain. Just get it over with.
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I'm tempted to ask her to join me for a small movie evening, without the kid. This was not part of my strategy, so I'm quite unsure. Any take?
It doesn't sound like it's a good time for that. I'm not sure how old your kid is, but if old enough to go to movies then you might try telling W that ya'll are going to see a movie and she's welcome to join you if she wants. But you need to be clear that you're going with or without her. She's welcome to go along, but if not, no biggie. That's the message you want to send. This way it's clear that it's not a date and there's no pressure on her to go.
