When I wrote that I was ready to give up the ghost and just tell him fine, you can have your D.
Isn't that the case whatever you say? I'm not sure what telling him that would get you. Do you think you would then feel more detached and in control of the sitch? Isn't the message we're trying to give the WAS that we will be fine and happy whatever happens and that we are fine right now as well? That's how I'm trying to act at the moment and things are definitely improving.
All I know is that any talk of OW in my sitch (last time and now) made things 100% worse. Unless, it's a deal breaker for you at this point, I would carry on as there are definitely some positives. Put yourself in the position of a hypothetical OW, wouldn't you feel threatened by him not bothering to set up the second tent, eating with you when he wasn't before, etc..?
Ideally, you could focus on feeling detached and in control without any R talk. If there is an OW, she'll be pressuring him sooner or later and you'll come out of it looking better if you stay strong and happy.
All easier said than done. I'm so impressed with how you handled the weekend. You must be really pleased with yourself. Your father's advice sounds good too.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012
