Was this them the whole time ??? My 2nd thread

[SunnyBurst]

Sunny,
I'm sorry your wife had a temper tantrum, but you have to ignore it. The next time she pulls this crap, just tell her you were working late and and I'm sorry you feel the way that you do. Right now, she's going to pull out all of the stops like telling you not to go to the wedding or you need to come home early so that the sitter can go home, etc. She's forgetting one thing...she's an adult too w/responsibilities.
Please do not allow her tantrums to change your path. Continue to be mysterious, go out and have some fun. After all, isn't she doing the same thing to you? Her anger is creating her projections of what she actully wants to do and unfortunately, you beat her to the punch.
I know it's difficult to deal w/the mlcer, but you have to change your view of her and look at her as a teenager trying to find her way in an adult world.

Thanks folks - but I think I might have done better just answering her text and letting her go out.

Maybe I should explain on Tuesday I go to Bible Study from 8-9 on Wed I go to Prayer group from 7:00 - 8:30 she sees these as me going out - - she sees them as "social events where I get to see other adults - while she is stuck home with our son " so in her mind I am going out 2 nights a week ever week for fun in her mind - the onslaught continued on Sunday - we get up go to church - go pumpkin picking and nustsy MLCer is smiling and giggling - we go out to grab a burger and she says I just want you to know that I know we were supposed to have Thanksgiving with my parents at our house but my cousin asked my parents over so now we are going to her house and you can go to your moms - and even though I said I would spend Christmas with you and our son - I think it best if you take him to your moms - I stupidly said (God I will never learn) what are you gonna do - she said "I'll figure somethin out".

But I still smiled and acted normal otherwise - went home and watched football.