Dropping the rope, hope I'm doing the right thing.

[scaredsilly]

Hey CV, thanks for dropping in.
H is still moving towards R. He forgot to bring the letter the last time he came to the house to take care of the lawn. His mother's house is about an hour from here so I'm not sure when I'll get it.
I am having shoulder surgery later this month and purposely did not involve him. I was to have the help of my DIL but found out yesterday that she can't do it because of a conflict with her son's school. She was willing to do part of it, have my son do another part, and my stepgrandson do the third part. Too much confusion and room for error for me so I texted H and asked him.

His response was that he would be "honored" to help me and that I can count on him! He asked if he could spend the night before the surgery day since it's first thing the next morning.

So, I guess things are going well. I'm enjoying each day and not expecting anything, which makes my life less stressful. I think R is very possible. My only concern is if he will be able to accept that, going forward, I don't want as much involvement with his kids and his family. He's acknowledged that the kids are "grown and gone".

Every interaction with him is positive now.

How's your world? Hope you're finding some peace and contentment? I see your advice on here to others and I've found helping others helps me. I hope it's working that way for you, too.