The crack in my perfect life...

[Cadet]

My 2 conditions were:

1: No drinking

2: NO OW

I didnt think they were too harsh at all.

Nope they were fine and reasonable.
YOU must have BOUNDARIES and these are two very good ones.
DO NOT cave on these two, you do not want him back if he can not agree to them.

This is not about YOU it is all him, but you must take the focus off of him and put it on YOU.