Optimistic, if there wad one word that could be used to describe my personality it would be optimistic. I look for the good in everything and always hold onto the idea that anything can work and everything has a solution.
Thus sitch is no different and I will continue to look for ways to manage my emotions, better myself physically and mentally. Create a strong, safe and secure environment around me and I will continue to hold onto my optimism!
This lif is to darn short for me to get caught up in the hardships right now. Instead I need to focus only on the good and the creation of more good in ky life.
I have also come to the conclusion that my W does not truly love herself or even have a clear identity. I think that because of these issues and the fact that our skills of communication were severely lacking.
All this being said there IS a solution... The big question is will I/we find it before our relationship slips into the abyss...
JAG signing off till later...
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
Today has been awesome, went for a long hike together. W was talking about future plans together again, we got our snowboarding passesand now we are cooking a healthy meal together.
Tomorrow I will be going out to friends house for the day. I might spend the night there. I think that W will come around to the conclusion of "Ooops what did I do" . But I really need to back off even more and let the great things we do soak in more and more with absences.
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
I bought nthat ILYBINILWY book today and already see so many parallels to my R with W... It's almost uncanny... I feel like I should lend the book to the.MC so she can see how close it is to the way our M is..
I might give the book to W as a last resort if I see her really slipping away..
Thoughts?
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
I have the chance to spend the night at a friend's tonight. Is spending rare nights out at a friend's house something I should be careful doing.or just go for it?
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
I would say stay out, give her space. I know what you are feeling though. All I want is to be around my w. I realize she needs this time as much as I do. So I will give it to her.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
Slept like a baby, W called twice. Once to say goodnight the other because our two dogs were barking like crazy so it startled her. Was nice to know that she still needs me to feel safe and get reassurance. She hung onto me on the phone as long as she could.
Now onto a serious query for the forum...
Two days ago W asked me if I could or would take 5,000 out of my investment account to pay off a few high interest loans at the shop. I was taken back by this question and only responded with a "i will have to think about that". She is the one who after all was worried about buying a 400 blender together and deciding who would get it if we split. So why all of a sudden would it be any better if I were to take money which was pre marriage, and partially a gift from my parents and put it into the business to pay it back as it can...
I sorta feel like WTF why would you ask that but at the same time the business has been paying for my health insurance even though I don't work there anymore.. so I sorta feel obligated...
Thoughts?
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
Also been reading ILYBIBILWY on my kindle, GREAT book!! I really think that if my W read the book it would help.. But that could just be the optimist in me?
Me - 30 W - 28 M 4 t 6 ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011 Band-aid Jan 11' ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12
