hrm, You did an excellent job in listening, validating and stating your thoughts to your h yesterday. I don't know how you did it. Your h has revealed quite a bit about where he is at and what he thinks of himself. The pained look says it all...he does care and yet, he doesn't value himself or what he's done w/his life right now.
One question for you...why does he want you to remove the things from the closet? Can't he do it himself? It would seem that if he was so gung ho in using the closet he would pack up the stuff....but I guess, it's a painful reminder to him too. It just sounded like he was looking to you as a "mom" to do this chore.
This conversation had been building up for quite some time and after he "blew", he felt better and more of a civil human being. The man has been in a dither for about a month and it took its toll on him. Now that he thinks he's laid all of his cards on the table, he should be in a better frame of mind for a bit. I'm not surprised that he ate the pork BBQ...he felt better after the conversation.
I do believe your ride is really just beginning...he's not fully engaged in replay yet, but it's not too far off. Strap yourself into the car and get ready for the bumps and twists and turns.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
