rH, The bike ride did you a lot of good yesterday. You needed that "alone" time to dust out the cobwebs in your mind and to know what you needed to do.
Your h was very honest w/you when he said he could pretend to be somebody else for a while. They become the complete opposites, i.e., different music, taste in food and drinks changes, clothing changes, etc.
Your h is so confused by what is happening to him and he really does love you, but he doesn't understand the way he's feeling about his life. You had a good marriage and your sons are the diamonds in the tiara. They are priceless and must be treasured at all times.
It's going to take some time before your h comes out the other side of his crisis. I hope and pray that his journey will not be a long one and that when he does come out the other side, he will want to reconcile w/you and be the mature man that he needs to be.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
