Time for an Introduction...and Thanks

[Arsene]

Hi FIO,

I'm sorry to hear how you feel. I can't contribute any advice other than to try not to think about it but I just wanted to tell you that I know how you feel.

A few months ago, D8 told me that her mom had picked her up from school on a motorbike. W doesn't ride so I had to ask whose bike it was and D8 innocently mentioned OM's nickname. Through a few more questions, I found out it hadn't been the first time she had met him. Fortunately, it turns out that D8 still thinks he's only a friend but still, it hurt when I heard.

The following day I brought it up with W who seemed to think there was nothing wrong with it (we had discussed it a month before when W had told me she was seeing OM and she hadn't seemed to think it would be an issue). As she said, in her mind we were divorced and she was allowed to have a boyfriend. Anyway, an argument later of me trying to explain how it could be detrimental to D8 at this point and W saying there was no problems with her seeing someone, she said that she thought it was for ME and not for D8, that I wanted that. She then said she would oblige just for me, but that she still didn't think there was anything wrong with it.

I didn't push it further and to this day I still don't know if she has complied but I have a feeling she hasn't based on things heard and said here and there by W and D8. I don't really want to drag D8 i that so i won't question her anymore about it, and besides, is there really anything I can do about it?

Am I upset? Yes, but in the end, there is nothing I can do about it so I keep it out of my mind and keep in mind that now, if she does it, she knows for sure I'm against it and that she told me she wouldn't. I do hope that her conscience sometimes kicks in between the lies.

Sorry for taking so long to tell my story but I just want you to know that you are ok, and what you think on this issue is not warped, no matter what your H says or thinks.

Take good care of yourself.