She goes out without her wedding ring. She comes home and doesn't want to talk to me, she wants her space. I'm giving it to her, but it feels so bad to me. Living like this is very painful.
I'm perplexed that when she's sending such obvious signals that she is "done" with you (in her current state of mind) that you actually broached the subject of having sex with her. That had to come off to her as incredibly needy, and the last thing you want is her thinking you're needy. You're doing the opposite of DB'ing. What you need to do is detach and GAL. You need to show her strength, character and independence.
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She also told me that this sitch would be easier if I moved out and I told her that I wouldn't abandon the kids.
Well you did this right at least I wouldn't have said that though, because you're implying that if she leaves then she is abandoning the kids. My W asked why she was the one that had to go instead of me, and I flat-out told her that I was the one fighting for the marriage, I was the one doing everything I could while she was doing nothing. I told her I supported her decision if she felt she had to move, but if she wanted to stay then I was willing to work with her on the M just as long as she wanted to stay. But my leaving was never an option.
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Anyways, I'm not sure how to proceed. Is it possible to do the LRT and still treat her as a friend?
Why do you think you need to do the LRT? If you've read DR then you know everything she's telling you is straight out of the WAS script. You shouldn't be surprised at all. What should you do? Detach. GAL. Work on your 180's. Use the opportunity while she's home o show her 180's. There's no need for LRT yet, that's what you do when you're about ready to drop the rope and move on.
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She just won't let go of her story from the past, she says she fell out of love and it's too late. Is it really too late? Or can can love be rekindled? I think that is my biggest question from this whole experience.
Again, this is straight from the WAS script. Not surprising at all. Don't believe anything you hear and only half of what you see, what does that DB tip mean to you?
I wouldn't have said that though, because you're implying that if she leaves then she is abandoning the kids. My W asked why she was the one that had to go instead of me, and I flat-out told her that I was the one fighting for the marriage, I was the one doing everything I could while she was doing nothing. I told her I supported her decision if she felt she had to move, but if she wanted to stay then I was willing to work with her on the M just as long as she wanted to stay. But my leaving was never an option.