Just back from driving the kids to school. Been thinking about stbx's text to S14.
I think I should probably ignore it. If he says anything, just try to respond with compassion (although not completely sure what that will mean, in the moment).
I think that he finds it too difficult to be in public with me given that he's come out publicly with OW.
Too contradictory for him.
That it means he misses out on events involving the kids is a choice he has made.
There is nothing i can do about it, other than to feel pity for the state he's in.
My reaction of upset and puzzlement is based on the assumption that we can be civil to each other in any context - both at our home and out in public.
As we haven't fought at all about the separation, and i have been doing 180s and acting as if, it seems logical to me that there would be no problem in us going out on a few special occasions like kids' birthdays.
For stbx, the raison-d'etre is completely different.
He is hurt, deprived of his kids, feels like sheet, and is not having such a great life. Who's at fault?: Me.
I am the reason he can't stay in the marriage, and I am still the reason for his current bad circumstances (he's told OW I won't sign D papers, and he feels I won't give him the money and assets he is entitled to).
She is pushing him to D, and wants me out of the picture, so this is explanation enough for his current change of opinion about me.
I though we had worked to the point of being 'friendly' with each other, and could co-parent without creating difficulty for the kids. Seems like at the moment, we have gone backwards in this department.
