Kicking a$$ and taking names!

[PEI]

I haven't read your sitch, in fact I've read only the last 3 posts, so that's all I've got to go on for these thoughts ...

I need to stop thinking that we are going to get back together. It could happen, I know, but it's messing me up right now to imagine this romantic R we are having when actions speak louder.

The thing that always irritates me about the LBS (myself included) is that we don't see that THEY have treated US badly, and that the decision of whether or not we 'get back together' should rest firmly in our hands if and when they pull their heads out of their a$$es. We pine and hope and change and tiptoe ... for what? So maybe, just maybe, our MLC/sick/selfish spouses can see we have value and they've made a mistake?

Stop it.

Now.

You have value because you are you. Do what you need to do to become an independant, healthy, happy individual without the confines and definitions that go along with a relationship. Do not be a b!tch about it, live with empathy and compassion, but for yourself as well. Treat him with as much respect as you would a stranger, but stop trying so damn hard to show him he's made a mistake by trying to win him back. Show him he made a mistake by living your best life. And when/if he sees it ... then YOU decide if his contribution is worth the investment.

So what does this look like? Stop being so available. Be busy ... try new things, make new friends ... knitting, parasailing, hiking, cooking, painting, wood working, pole dancing, rock climbing ... lol ... try anything, and everything! Find free stuff, connect with old friends ... be the woman you are, the woman you've always wanted to be.

Get at 'er ...
Peace
PEI