Now Separated, Am I doing the right things?

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Don't worry about that intel Rough, from my perspective you'd be better off without it. The "You're not fighting for me" argument is a dead end. Why? Because there is no guideline for what "fighting for her" looks like, and there is no yardstick for how much is enough. It can be a gerbil wheel that you're better off not stepping into.

Your W CHOSE to move out, your W CHOSE to leave. It is not your responsibility to chase her and convince her to come back. She's an adult and needs to own her own decisions. It is your job to be the best man you can be, to be the best spouse you can be, and to learn marriage-friendly attitudes and behaviors, including learning how to understand and fulfill your partner's needs.

If you do these things, you don't need to "fight for her" because you'll be the obvious best choice. I think your GAL activities and your approach to date has equalized the power in the relationship, so often the WAS calls all the shots. You're in a good place -- stay there.

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