Here we go again...

[someguy1233]

So no possibility of having a pay as you go phone that may be left at work or at a friends? I hope I am wrong but something tells me that something beside depression may be at work. In my stich my XW had several secrete pay as you go phones. She also had a locker at work and used her girlfriends house. I hope I am wrong.

When you put it that way, sure... anything is possible. However, I really don't think there is. I'm not trying to be naive. It's just that I've sadly been through that with her and know her patterns/behaviors.

If it is CT or a few other states, they do have both fault and no fault. You may want to check.

We're in a no-fault only state. With no cool-down/waiting period.

http://www.custodyxchange.com/custody/parenting-plan-template.php

A parenting plan is something that would be required if you end up divorced. It is a schedule of who will be responsible for the “parental” responsibility of the child. For example…I have a “flexible parenting plan that is based on a 50/50 split”. In short, I have my kids Wed, Thurs, Friday and Saturday’s – my xw has them on Sun, Mon and Tue.

I bring this up so that 1) it may be easier for you to GAL and STILL ensure that your son is taken care of 2) ensure that the parental responsibility for your son is SHARED.

I'm not sure how to bring up the parenting plan with out sounding like I'm trying to start planning how to separate.

BTW, what are you doing to GAL? Have you begun to make new friends? What are your schedules like? Do you have time to GAL?

I’m asking because I hope that you are not “over compensating” with the intent to try and win her back with “deeds”.

I haven't been doing enough to GAL. I think I hadn't really started since this was all so fresh. I've felt like I had to spend every minute researching divorce, parenting, and DB. I was talking with my sister last night and she nailed it... The answer isn't in this computer. No ammount of Googling will fix my situation. It's time to go do things for me. I started to yesterday. Son and I spent the day with my parents. We went shopping, helped winterize their camper, etc. I need to allow myself time for reading R books, etc. But spending all my time focusing on it and reading a book 2 days faster isn't going to magically fix this situation.

Today I'm going to help my dad install a backup camera on his truck. Later this evening I'm going to go meetup with a friend. I'm not sure what we're going to to do. Typically we just grab a beer at a bar. However, I've been avoiding all alcohol since she dropped the bomb. I don't need to go down that path... Drinking the sorrows away never works and just leads to a rough morning!