I ask because if you've read and are currently reading DR, you should be able to point out what you're "doing wrong"
Pay special attention to the detaching portions.
It seems every action you take, every move you make, you're thinking about HER reaction to it... How she'll feel about this or that.
You're doing a lot of pursuing and justifying it by saying you don't want her to get mad or impatient.
But you can't control HER emotions. Only YOUR actions.
Make a list of goals.
Make a list of 180s.
Make a list of GAL activities that you'll be doing for you, separate from your son's activities.
You're pouring a lot into your son, which is a GREAT thing to do. You seem to be doing a great job of parenting through this difficult time.
But you need to make sure you take care of YOU too.
Read some other sitchs on this board. Comment on them. It will help you get perspective. And, it will help you see how others deal with similar situations and the advice that they are getting.
