Sorry to hear things aren't improving for you... I had hoped since you hadn't been posting that maybe things had taken a turn for the better.
I think what CV is talking about, and your example are two different things. Getting punched in the nose once is the other person's fault. Getting punched in the nose, twice, by the same person, is your fault -- leaving out stalkers and school yard bullies.
Quote: Sometimes things happen that you cannot control. Being effected by the continual rejection of someone you love has nothing to do with you giving them power.
Sure it does. How long are you going to stand there and let someone abuse you? If the other person can't and won't hear you, how long are you going to disrespect yourself and take it?
You are hurting because someone you think you love is not living up to YOUR expectations. I'm not saying your expectation isn't NORMAL, I'm just saying it is your expectation, and they aren't cooperating with you... and that's where the hurt comes from.
What it sounds like you are saying above is that it is your partner's responsibility to stop the bleeding or at least help stop the bleeding. And I agree with that.
But what happens when they don't or can't? How long are you going to stand there and bleed?
