Not my MLC to deal with anymore

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Punkin, You're not out of things very long, and it looks as if your situation unfolded quickly. It's OK to not date for a while--in fact probably a very good idea. And it's OK to still have feelings--after a while that will change and you will basically just be polite.

I dated very quickly after D, but only because I had 3 years of being separated and with minimal contact. Had things unfolded more quickly, I likely would not have dated for a very long time post-divorce--more to just feel healed and happy again. I spent probably a good year doing things alone. And I liked it. I liked watching movies alone on Saturday nights--it was all exactly stuff that *I* wanted to see. I read a lot, went to lectures, slowly made new friend, and just enjoyed myself.

After that, I began to hang out with other women, then with my daughter's friends' parents, and by the time X divorced me, I was ready to date. Again, that took quite a long while. Maybe it shocked him that I had a BF rather quickly after we divorced...but the loonnnng separation gave me time to get my act back together.