I honestly don't think there's an OM. Sadly, we've been down the road previously. I've learned and have always watched for the signs since. When she's home her cell phone is still out in the open, not locked. Her Facebook and email accounts remained logged in. There's no new clothes, underwear, etc. There isn't much anger towards me, missing time, etc. I'd be very surprised if an OM existed.
So no possibility of having a pay as you go phone that may be left at work or at a friends? I hope I am wrong but something tells me that something beside depression may be at work. In my stich my XW had several secrete pay as you go phones. She also had a locker at work and used her girlfriends house. I hope I am wrong.
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I am in a no-fault state. No waiting period.
If it is CT or a few other states, they do have both fault and no fault. You may want to check.
A parenting plan is something that would be required if you end up divorced. It is a schedule of who will be responsible for the “parental” responsibility of the child. For example…I have a “flexible parenting plan that is based on a 50/50 split”. In short, I have my kids Wed, Thurs, Friday and Saturday’s – my xw has them on Sun, Mon and Tue.
I bring this up so that 1) it may be easier for you to GAL and STILL ensure that your son is taken care of 2) ensure that the parental responsibility for your son is SHARED.
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I kind of feel like maybe I should have answered her earlier as I'm sure she was truly concerned about our son. But on the other hand, I feel like she wants space, and this is what that space would feel like, especially when it comes to shared custody of our son.
I am torn on how to respond to this….on one hand I can see how she could be concerned, on the other hand, this MAY be how it is if you get d’d. Usually an agreement will stipulate that parental time not be interrupted by the other parent. Maybe, you can let her know that if something were to happen to your son you would call her but you really just wanted daddy son time.
BTW, what are you doing to GAL? Have you begun to make new friends? What are your schedules like? Do you have time to GAL?
I’m asking because I hope that you are not “over compensating” with the intent to try and win her back with “deeds”.
Peace, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
