Staying off the ride 1 - mixed signals

[littleGTO]

Hi, Tumbling,
Just got done catching up on your entire thread and thought I'd comment.

I completely understand the ride from your perspective...although I've not been on it nearly as long. GOod to know it is "normal" for the WAS...although my H hasn't technically left yet. I need help/ advice from others who have already endured a separation.

I love that you are finding yourself on this journey..back to CG,etc. I wonder if I've lost myself...although when so much time passes are u really the same person you think you've lost?

I wonder too if my H misses the former FUN me (before kids)...I know I do sometimes too, but life changes, and so do we all. Acceptance of our "new" selves has to be okay too, as long as we HAL (have a life vs. Get a life).

Do you feel your H misses the "old" u?

Maybe texting feels more comfortable for him--his own space/ own time, vs. a conversation where anything may come up (uncomfortable).