Wendylon, considering the time difference, your b-day dinner must be over--or maybe not? Just kidding.
You now know what you need to do. I think most women become "moms" to their husbands, and we usually want things done a certain way, while most H's don't really care much about the details. I made the same mistake with my H.
Your description of your H includes a lot of ADD traits. My coach said over 70% of the people she talks to have spouses with ADD. It goes to show you that opposites attract. I think I was first drawn by my H's carefree, jovial attitude; he was always joking around, and was so different from me. I think success in this type of R is possible as long as you find a way to adapt to each other early in the game.
