W invited me to lunch as a family today. I walked in to an ambush.
W asked me if I still planed on moving.
I said yes.
She tells me she wants a payment of X amount every week, I can have Thanksgiving, and a month of summer vacation. That she no longer has any intentions of moving back home. She may, one day, but is happy here.
I told her that I don't agree to her terms but we can figure it out.
She then says that she wants to figure it out NOW. That if I don't give her what she wants she will file for sole custody and I will have to pay her more and will get less time. That they always side with the mother, and she will get exactly what she wants. I should just agree to her terms and avoid expensive legal fees.
So I said (perhaps foolishly) "why do you want to avoid the legal system? Why havn't you filed for D already?"
She then tells me it is because she is not a legal resident of her current state.
This is something that I have let slide past me. When she moved out she moved just accross the state line.
Do I have some kind of upperhand now? Did she let something slip?
I know I've got to talk to a L.
Her child support figure is above the legal requirement. In her state, mine, and our home state.
So I don't think she has seen a L and is pulling this all out of what she thinks the law is and should be.
I am cool. Kind of excited. Mostly just eager to seek legal advise. I have put it off for too long.
