Watching our H's hurt our children is heartbreaking, isn't it? I think that is one of the things that hurt me most during this time. I'm an adult, I've made mistakes, I'm making choices now as a grown up who has some understanding of what's going on. But our kids... They really are the innocent victims. And I think I speak for all the mama bears our there - you f with my kids, you f with me, MLC or not.
I've been trying to read threads on the reconnection process, because I do believe H is in the beginning stages. First things, then kids. He has definitely reconnected with them.
RH you brought up about your S's birthday. S2's birthday was back in June. H didn't come home till after S was in bed. Didn't go out to dinner with us. Didn't sing happy birthday or have cake. Once he did come home, he claimed he was over his brothers, and that it was no big deal because he would be at the party that weekend.
It was a big deal to me though. I was just glad S2 was too young to know any better.
Again... How could I respect a man like this????
I am always trying to focus on the positives, and it is tough at times. When H acted that way with the boys, I focused on being the best parent I could be, a parent that they deserved.
It's sometimes all we can do.
Now, it gives me such hope to see H be so loving with the boys. I know that I'm the last in line with reconnection, and that's okay. All part of watching that grass grow.
You are right Gal, H is in no place to be counting his blessings. It is incredibly frustrating to see. They have such a good life waiting for them, they just don't know it! They would rather wallow in their own pity party.
Read mirages post from today under life as an authentically living LBS. The pain that our MLCers suffer never ceases to amaze me.
Hope you ladies are having a good weekend so far
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
