ss, Don't want to imply that I've actually said/done anything to my mum that would require an apology.
I could apologise, I suppose, for having those feelings towards her, but I don't think she'd know and I wouldn't want her to.
I try to remind myself that i can't control the behaviour of others when i am getting annoyed.
It's also of interest to me that i noticed stbx getting more and more negative towards my mum in the last couple years.
He was always pleasant to her, but would comment negatively to me about her behaviour. He saw my parents' relationship as awful, too - and blamed my mum for being a controlling nag. When he dropped the B, it was just 2 days after we'd all been away on a cruise together for 3 weeks - and during that time, my dad had nearly died.
In his eyes, I was turning into her, I suppose. And he didn't want to end up like my dad.
