So, there's a few things to deal with in your own past? Ok. You made some mistakes. Why didn't she leave you then?
She didn't.
Neither did you.
As for the rants, she doesn't seem to like it when you do what she does? Really? Who would have thought?
No, I disagree. I think being mysterious got you noticed. It doesn't feel good, but then again, neither does watching her head out the door does it? Or feeling like a doormat? Or feeling like she is disregarding your feelings? I suggest you continue but that's me.
But aside from that, she seems to be saying she feels trapped. By what I do not know. But that's what comes across.
One of the hallmarks of depression is that everything is "forever" and "always". "You never" is common part of that.
"I am done" is also common speak.
I suggest you shrug it off as getting noticed and let it go at that. If you change now, you'll be "always inconsistent" and "never a man". Go do what you want to do in a loving way and don't tell her. She wants to be divorced? She won't know then either...(don't tell her that)
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."