He told her, "you're amazing", "missing you" "do you need anything, I can 'run an errand" - she is totally OW. And he is sneaking around to boot.
The lawyer said sit tight because of potential custody issues. He complains about this to OW. He wants out and I'm wondering If I should just let him go.
I'm sorry about the latest developments LA. No one deserves this. If I'm you, my strategy shifts now. I'd confront him strongly. What I mean by that is don't let him deny it. Also don't tell him how you know. "H, I know. It doesn't matter how I found out". I don't mean argue with him, plead with him to stop, cry, yell, or anything like that. Just calmly confront him and tell him that it is unacceptable.
I'd begin to detach and start GALing for yourself. And no, I don't mean OM.
I would let him go. I think that what you have been doing up to now was good under the previous circumstances. Now, with the new information, it equates to pursuit and pressure.
Give him space and time to come to his own conclusions on what is right.
That's my 2 cents.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
