My wife and I always informed each other of where we are going and when we'll be back. Even in our present situation this has not changed. Since we live together and run the house together, I think it's just common courtesy. I like this and plan to maintain it as long as I can... hopefully for the duration!
Originally Posted By: a_man_lost
...her biggest issue with me was that I was not affectionate enough, intamite or sexual. ...How can I do 180s when I can't touch her. Can't show affection. Etc!!!! To her, being detached is more of the same!
When you both are getting along well you may consider a light touch on the shoulder or such as you pass her, or open a door for her. Gauge her reaction. As long as you go slow and don't cross her boundaries you really can't go wrong here. If you're ever going to be intimate again, (which you say was her main complaint against you) you'll have to start somewhere, sometime. But only you can decide when the time is right, and it may not be for a while. Even so, she's not going to run out and file because you touched her arm too soon.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
