Acceptance - My next challenge.

[Arsene]

Arnse to answer your question earlier.

25 set boundaries. She enforced them. She lived within her boundaries.

I never said she hadn't CB.

This is something that is lacking in your life. All your goals are about pretending to be awesome around your wife.... So you put on the mask. This gets tiresome and is a fake world your creating. How many more years can you keep up your lies to yourself , wife and child? Responsible love would be a good goal for you to achieve.

Sorry CB, but aren't you making many assumptions about me here my friend. From where I stand, I am not "pretending to be awesome" or "wearing a mask". I am living my life and working on myself, which is what DB is about, I think.

P.S. I wrote that to you yesterday because you asked me to give you an honest opinion.


And I did/do appreciate your honesty CB, as I explained earlier.

I'm sorry guys. You might think I'm pig-headed and refuse to see the light, and maybe I am. I have the utmost respect for all of you, even if and especially because you have different opinions. These opinions from extremes of the spectrum keep me on my toes and stop me from being complacent. They offer a perspective that I can not see from my present situation (in the forest) but which challenges my thoughts and beliefs on a daily basis, allowing me to make the decisions I make with the knowledge that they are not solely based on my way of thinking.

Looking at your comments has forced me to look deeply into what I'm doing and to question my reasons for doing it. This in turn is giving me the confidence to do it, knowing I have considered other viewpoints and that this is the best thing for my situation for the time being.

I hope this makes sense and that you don't give up on me. Your words have been truly helpful today.

Sorry guys, I thought I'd done a good job in explaining my reasons for doing what I am doing. My road map for now, follows DR guidelines, to the best of my knowledge. Is there something wrong with MWD's recommendations? Or am I misunderstanding what I read? If not, why is it that so much of what I read here seems to be going against what is recommended in DR? Sometimes I actually wonder if we are all reading the same book here. I'm sorry but it just gets really confusing.