Yay, it sounds like you are calm today and that you both enjoyed sharing lunch together yesterday. I like that you still laugh together.
I understand your frustration with the "room mate" sitch but it is what it is and it won't be forever - it just is for now.
My H isn't even in the house and we have only just restarted coms by text, haven't seen each other properly for 4months so I'm pretty jealous of those who have an opportunity to show that anyone would be a fool to leave them.
Can you try and look at it like you are just room-mates for now and you are the amazingly cool and chillaxed AML that we see sometimes in your posts that any woman would be a fool to leave?
See, I'm starting again with my H but I know Rome wasn't built in a day. It's very small steps and "treading lightly" according to AFA75. I'm certain you can do this.
I've found that relationships/interacting with others are the way we grow and learn about our selves. We learn in them how to be our best selves and how our actions/behaviours impact others. We can practice our 180s with everyone not just our other halves. Even posting on your thread and others enables me to be my best Self not for you or H but for me.
If you haven't done it already, go visit/post on other's threads as you will see backslides as well as great DBing to learn from.
One other thing I have done, is I have practiced only 1 or 2 180s/DB moves that I really want to be like at a time and am waiting for them to bed in, before I add others. Kind of helps.
Have a good weekend, Mr Chillax!
ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
