Here's something I learned when my wife and I were out last night. If she had the opportunity (people or person available to go with) she would go out clubbing, partying, drinking, whatever you want to call it, a lot more often than she does now, which is only once every other week or so. These nights out are with coworkers, her one divorced friend D, or my sister K. She always tells me where she's going and who she's with. Many of these nights out are actually nothing more than dinner and a glass of wine or two, but she clearly desires more single life action.
I know she envies those who live the wild party style single life, and has told me that she feels she missed out on this in her youth. Maybe she'll need to get this out of her system before she can move on.
J, her close friend at work, (gay male in his late 40's mentioned several pages back) is admired for his 'party' lifestyle. Last night she mentioned he was hurting this week because he went out three nights. I asked if he has behaved this way his entire life, or if he just started back into it recently. (they've worked together for 15 years) My reasoning was that this seemed like immature behavior, not that of a mature adult. I hear a lot about J, and actually feel he may be in a MLC himself.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
