Gotta agree with Butters here, as hard as that is... You NEED TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT FROM WHAT YOU'VE BEEN DOING.
Read DR... Re Read DR... Then Read it one more time... Make a list of all the things you're doing wrong in your sitch and all the pain it's causing you... and guess what? That pain is filtering down to your child, no matter how hard you try to mask it.