I've been following your sitch and I'm really sorry ab your recent discovery. I guess it fits with the phone call with the strange ring tone. I really enjoy your insights into your sitch and your feedback to others. You sound very clear thinking.
Your H sounds v similar to mine. You could be describing my R:
Originally Posted By: RegretfulLA
It's his preconceived notion that I don't think what he says is valid, so the hair stands up and the claws come out over nothing. This has happened over and over again, and it really spoils anything good that we might have going.
It's as if my H is completely over-sensitive to the smallest sign that he's been put down by me. He thinks everything always has to be my way. It has proven v difficult for me to counter that sense he has of me. I look forward on working on this and hope to keep learning from people like you who share this dynamic in their R.
Despite your discovery of OW(s), there do seem to be lots of positives in your sitch. In some ways, it's all the more impressive that your H is softening towards you given that there are (potential) OWs. I would definitely be feeling threatened by your progress if I put myself in the shoes of an OW. What do you make of a L saying to sit tight? I'm not sure what that means.
I hope you can manage to keep DBing this weekend. I do think you've been making progress. I look forward to hearing how it's going and send you much DBing courage in the meantime.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012
