Kimmerz, Here's the cliff notes of MLC(my opinion from going thorugh one) I had an internal MLC, I kept everything inside. Usually you are the opposite when you go through MLC. I was before a life of the party type of guy, I had lots of fun and what I thought was a well balanced life. I did enjoy life, played sports, read, coached my kids, enjoyed work etc.
MLC chose me if you will(now I know in hindsight that it was to open my eyes to an interanl spiritual world that I was missing)and come to grips with some childhood and early years issues.
MLC lasted 2 1/2 yrs hit when I turned 40, came out of it at 42 1/2 to 43. It started as a malaise about life, missing things, started hating my wife(kept that inside), my life. The spiral down to full blown depression, hatred for myself took about 6 months. The emotional pain I felt everyday for roughly 1 1/2 years was excrutiating. I didnt think about anyone else just getting through a day. There were days I thought I would die from the emotional pain. I couldn't believe that this hurt worse than any physical pain I ever endured.
I would look in the mirror and there was noone there. I did try to journal the process but quit. I had no reason to go on. It was day after day after day of the same thing. I hate myself so bad there was no reason to go on.
I don't remember about a year of my life from that time. It is basically erased. My mind was mush.
I did not swing back and forth like your husband. I think thats the difference between an internal ve external MLC. External ones do that as there wrestling with this psychological meltdown of the brain. They play out there drama with external things.
I remember the day I hit rock bottom, where I was, what I thought. That day saved me. It was the start out of the tunnel.
This is from my own experience. An MLC'er must heal themselves. An MLC is actually a gift if, and this is a big if, they get what the internal mayhem is about. There is a major lesson to be learned. But...... were human beings and were fallable creatures and that's why many don't. If your husband comes through it you'll have a wonderful human being. If not you have a stuck MLC'er. Yuk!
Thats why, Db'ing, GAL, works. Your a better person regardless of the outcome. Plus maybe doing the work now will save you from your own MLC. I wouldn't wish an MLC on anyone.
