You know I think we all end up trying so hard to move on, that we don't really stop to think of the reality of LEGAL divorce compared to EMOTIONAL divorce. Those really are two whole different entities.
I think we all tend to think that because our marriage is legally no longer binding, that our emotions will just follow suit. Gee, if it were only that easy huh?
Glad you brought that up Eric.
Tad, you can still stand, move forward, and still heal and grow too.
When I knew I had abandonment issues and I read a wonderful book about abandonment, it was the domino effect in my path to healing....which I still am healing. Along the way I've discovered alot about myself, even XH as to why things turned out the way the did. And it's not anything like "well he said this, and I had to do that cause he's so horrible" sort of thing. I started to see our personal internal issues that resided in both of us that would surface, would make us act and the other to react. Geez you keep that crap up for years and there ya go!
Digging deep takes time Tad, so press forward, but be patient with yourself.
