Correct. I was told the "signs" are usually evident such as they avoid you like the plague. Within the last week or too I've received a lot less texts and emails from W, just a bit interesting. I've never though there was an ACTIVE OM but that could be changing. I am sure the email I receive from her will shed some light. Maybe I am being naive but I do believe SOME of what she says.
I don't think that the point is that the WAW is lying or simply mistaken when they tell us how they feel. Sure, it is true at the moment.
The point is to not put TOO much stock in it. Whether or not it ends up being how they feel in the long run, right now, these feelings come from emotional upheavel and/or short lived euphoria. In short, they are unreliable.
It is listed here as one of the 37 rules of DB (or 40, whatever it is up to now) so that we LBS's don't get discouraged and give up too quickly, and to dull the stab of the knife that can come from the WAW's words.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
