It applies differently to facts vs. their feelings.
Example:
"I am dating an OM" Fact (pretty much have to believe that, right?)
"I am moving to Guam" (again, fact)
vs.
"I'm not in love with you anymore" (feeling - you don't believe it because it is JUST a feeling that she has in the present moment. It may change, and can in a NY minute)
"I'm in love with OM" (feeling)
"we should have have gotten married" (feeling)
You get the idea.
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Her email may contain both.
facts = information
information is useful because it allows us to make choices based on the reality of the situation.
Be prepared for ...
her feelings
They can sting you. Can cause you to react negatively if you REACT... Don't do or say anything until the dust settles.
her feelings only reflect how she feels in the present moment.
Do you feel the same now as you did 12 months ago? 5 years ago? Probably not... you may feelings about an issue that are completely opposite of how you felt about that issue 12 months ago. Or, you may have feelings that are the same, but stronger or weaker than they were 12 months ago.
Feelings change. And they usually aren't very clear when we are in the midst of emotional turmoil... or feeling euphoria due to something new in our life (OP, new home, new town, new life...)
That's why they say believe nothing that they say.
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Be prepared for the worst Rough. Remember though, it is only information. Listen to it, think about it, let the emotions cool, then decide how to act in response.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
