I'm not mindreading here, nor am I reading ANYTHING into this.
Can't bullsh!t a bullsh!tter AT... of course you are. Nice try though. I know because I did this about a billion times over the course of 18 months.
"what does it mean?" "is she missing me?" "is she trying to strike up a conversation" etc., etc., etc.
sometimes I was right... sometimes I was wrong... but the bottom line was
IT NEVER MATTERED
It doesn't change anything one way or the other AT.
However, I am curious if you responded.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Haha, You're both obviously right... it's all semantics at this point.
And no, I have not responded, as there is really no need. She didn't ask a question, just made a couple statements.
I'm going to go against probably everyone else on this thread... maybe even myself...
I would reply. "U2"... let me explain before you hit me!
You want to go dark, but you don't want to be a d!ck. Therefore, I am not a proponent of flat out ignoring contacts when they are pleasant or inquiring.
I faced this same question many times, and there were posters who wanted me to flat out ignore W and other posters who criticized me when I did just that. You all know who you are! Bottom line, I determined that both positions were correct. It just depended on the type of contact that W had initiated with me.
So... "U2" ... You cannot be anymore flat or dismissive than that. You're not even taking the time to spell out 'you'. But yet, you're not ignoring her. This may sound stupid, but remember, I am an attorney! I argue for a living! The WAY that we say things often communicates more than what we say.
Here, you are saying, "I won't ignore you. I will be polite. I will respond to you just as I would a stranger on the street. But I'm not going to engage you in conversation. And I'm going to keep you guessing as to what I am thinking."
Pure gamesmanship. I admit. And I will now duck my head for the 2x4s!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Haha, You're both obviously right... it's all semantics at this point.
And no, I have not responded, as there is really no need. She didn't ask a question, just made a couple statements.
I'm going to go against probably everyone else on this thread... maybe even myself...
I would reply. "U2"... let me explain before you hit me!
You want to go dark, but you don't want to be a d!ck. Therefore, I am not a proponent of flat out ignoring contacts when they are pleasant or inquiring.
I faced this same question many times, and there were posters who wanted me to flat out ignore W and other posters who criticized me when I did just that. You all know who you are! Bottom line, I determined that both positions were correct. It just depended on the type of contact that W had initiated with me.
So... "U2" ... You cannot be anymore flat or dismissive than that. You're not even taking the time to spell out 'you'. But yet, you're not ignoring her. This may sound stupid, but remember, I am an attorney! I argue for a living! The WAY that we say things often communicates more than what we say.
Here, you are saying, "I won't ignore you. I will be polite. I will respond to you just as I would a stranger on the street. But I'm not going to engage you in conversation. And I'm going to keep you guessing as to what I am thinking."
Pure gamesmanship. I admit. And I will now duck my head for the 2x4s!
Actually, I agree with Denver on this. And I believe I was probably one of the ones on his thread telling him not to be a dikk! LOL
Just make sure the reply is delayed by a few hours, so it doesn't look like you're hanging around waiting for it.
Haha, You're both obviously right... it's all semantics at this point.
And no, I have not responded, as there is really no need. She didn't ask a question, just made a couple statements.
I'm going to go against probably everyone else on this thread... maybe even myself...
I would reply. "U2"... let me explain before you hit me!
You want to go dark, but you don't want to be a d!ck. Therefore, I am not a proponent of flat out ignoring contacts when they are pleasant or inquiring.
I faced this same question many times, and there were posters who wanted me to flat out ignore W and other posters who criticized me when I did just that. You all know who you are! Bottom line, I determined that both positions were correct. It just depended on the type of contact that W had initiated with me.
So... "U2" ... You cannot be anymore flat or dismissive than that. You're not even taking the time to spell out 'you'. But yet, you're not ignoring her. This may sound stupid, but remember, I am an attorney! I argue for a living! The WAY that we say things often communicates more than what we say.
Here, you are saying, "I won't ignore you. I will be polite. I will respond to you just as I would a stranger on the street. But I'm not going to engage you in conversation. And I'm going to keep you guessing as to what I am thinking."
Pure gamesmanship. I admit. And I will now duck my head for the 2x4s!
And I believe I was probably one of the ones on his thread telling him not to be a dikk! LOL
Are you SURE about that Starsky?? Hahaha... I'm thinking of one particular period of my separation. I will have to go back and look!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
It might not have been your thread, Denver. But I distinctly remember posting to some others (sometimes using snarky "passive-aggressive much?" posts) who were just IGNORING their wives.
I'd much rather leave a nickel tip for a bad waitress, than NO tip at all. It sends a stronger message.
