It's been 4 months since the big I want to move conversation. I guess the positive is that due is still here, still in the same bed. But no emotions or physical touch. No I love you's. Patience and more DBing.
By you saying that there hasn't been any of these things said by her, I have to wonder if you have been expecting it? I know the LBH's gets advice about no expectations, but I also know that most really do think she's going to tell him exactly what you've mentioned. Some day, hopefully, you will hear these things from her again. But I don't think it's going to happen right now. Even if you have a good evening or a great family weekend, don't look for her to suddenly tell you she loves you or to see her wanting that physical touch from you. She may.....but most WAW's who are involved with OM don't do it before OM is out of the picture and the MR receives some healing.
As you go through this journey, don't constantly check your own emotional tempt. You need to know what you want, then set your goals, and you work to get there. You get up every day and you go to work b/c that's what you have to do to have what you want, right? You don't gauge how you feel emotionally every day before deciding if you'll go to work. You just do it.
Same thing with DBing. You'll experience many emotions throughout this stitch. However, just b/c you have a bad day....or a great day....should not be the foundation of any decisions toward your R with your W. Same thing applies to expectations. Don't put expectations on her based on her emotions or your emotions that day, week, or event.
Unfortunately, saving a M that has been damaged by a third party, usually does not heal quickly. But, it can be healed!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
