I was hoping for some input. I will explain the best I can and please let me know if you think I am on the right track or not. I feel my sitch is slightly different in the sense that I don’t believe W immediately jumped into a relationship with OM. I believe she’s been with someone else since we separation but that’s about all I know. Who knows, by now she could be getting serious with someone but that’s me just mind reading.
W texted me in regards to a legitimate question about or kids. She went on to say “I am planning to write and send you a long email this weekend about all of my thoughts.”
A lot of WAW don’t break up their families without a place to land. In those situations the “fog” is very thick. W and I were in a poor marriage for quite a while and the pain was too much for her. Rather than fog, I think it’s more of a light mist for W. Here’s my question, I am mentally preparing myself to hear some VERY hurtful things from W. As difficult as it might be, I believe it's good for me to hear whatever she has to say. To be honest, I don’t feel I’ve made all the necessary changes for myself or for her to see as a by product. If it's fog or a light mist, does it really make a difference? Let's see if I can answer my own question. No, it's my consistent changes over time and for myself, that's what's important here, right?
Here’s my question. The saying goes “Believe nothing they say.” However I will probably take her upcoming methodical email at face value. Do you think it’s ok for me to look at things that way? Once again, I know I am doing some mind reading but I am confident it’s not going to be a warm and fuzzy message from her.
What's the worst thing she could say, "I am with OM", "I want a divorce". She's already told me once that she wants a divorce, she also said she's had sex since we separated, so what more could she do? Sometimes it's just good for me to write these things out. There’s so much ambiguity here that I probably just need to absorb and process whatever she tells me then forge ahead and focus on myself. As Denver say’s, things can change in a NY minute. Even in the darkest times, there’s always hope! Thanks a bunch.
