Again you are right that we cannot redo the past. I'am not living in the past but my wife sure does
And she may for a while. A lot of times it take a while for things to break, then we want them fixed NOW. Time Leo,time. That said, you will also need to figure out how much time YOU want to put into fixing this.
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I truly feel like we are stuck in the mud going nowhere.
It may feel that for a while.
You have identified some of the issues ie. finances, so what is your plan of attack? How can you begin to make some positive changes for YOU?
Also, about her complaining....right now in a way it is a GOOD thing. It shows that she is still somewhat invested in the M.
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I don't know if you saw a few posts back but my sons both said something to my wife recently about her never being home.
Do you think she is seeing someone?
Sounds like your W keeps herself busy with her friends. What do you two guys (or used to do) together?
Also, can you do me a favor...write down all of the positive things you remember about your W. What did you love about her, what attracted you to her to begin with.
Finally, the fact that you are here tells me that deep down inside you want to fix this. Do you really want to reconcile? If so, why?
Have a good weekend dude. I'll check back on Monday.
Peace, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
