I wanted to share an email my IC sent me that's made me smile brightly today...
Alk,
I just was thinking about our session last night. I am really impressed by how you were able to articulate to W your feelings and position regarding the relationship. This is certainly not easy stuff and, although the outcome may not be known, there is oftentimes a healthy solace derived from asserting oneself in this fashion at critical times. I admire what you accomplished. Good show!
Best regards,
IC
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I wanted to share this for a couple reasons. First, it's a great validation of the things that so many of you have been suggesting and I've been working on as far as setting boundaries and lovingly detaching.
Secondly, I think this type of letter could give an awful lot of hope to the DBers in similar situations to mine... While setting up personal boundaries and detaching from our WAS is terribly difficult... oftentimes it's the only thing we can do in order to ensure we don't stunt our personal progress.
Thanks so much to each and every one of you for your helping hands along the way... I KNOW I have a long ways to go, and I know you'll all be here to help me. I'm eternally grateful for that!
