Well I am hopeful. And I am worrying about me (and my daughter) and in order to do that fully, I am going to have to put him in a very hard position with his child, his finances, his life really and I feel really horrible for having to do it.
YOU are not doing this. HE is doing this. He is forcing you into a position where you must protect yourself and your D. But have no doubts about this, the situation is 100% of his making. HE has to suffer the consequences of his actions. That's what is going on here.
And you might be surprised to find that if you stand up for you and your D against him and force him to suffer the consequences of his actions, he may lash out at first but eventually respect you for being so strong.
Originally Posted By: ForMyHusband
He already said he would be pissed if I forced him out (which I can do with a court order). Isnt there a point where its taking it too far making it "look" like I've dropped the rope? I don't want to drop it at all
Maybe there's more to this than I realize, but I wouldn't force him out. You for sure should not leave, but why would you force him out? What I told my W is that I wanted to try to work things out with her and was willing to work at it as long as possible while she was under my roof, but if she wanted to move out I wasn't going to stop her. I told her I wanted her to be happy, and if she thought moving out would make her happy then I supported her decision. Unfortunately she did move out, but the bottom line was I held my ground and felt stronger and more confident for it.
