Mishka- you are absolutely correct and I let H get away with it because I feel guilty about snooping when I got the bomb. I also wanted to show him that I do not have anything to hide. I think he was looking for something to either validate his behavior or try to find out what I'm doing since I'm working on GAL but you all are right and I am going to talk to him about this if he ever attempts to violate my privacy again.
Yesterday H called me at work and hung on the phone for almost an hour having a pity party. He ignored my attempts to get off the phone. Basically he needs my help in his business and his truck is giving him problems. The truck is in my name and he wants to trade it in. I don't feel comfortable incurring more debt in my name for him. I drive an SUV which is in his name. I could swap vehicles with him but I would be stuck with the lemon. Either way, I told him that I did want to incur anymore debt right now and he needs to think of some other options. I left it in his court. Any thoughts on this?
After I helped H draft to bids for his business, he took me out for dinner. He asked me several times about my plans for today and I told him I was not sure but I was certain to go see the band play tonight. H said he was going to get some money together so we could have a good time. I did not respond because my plan is to go with or without him. He then mentioned that his cousin was having a bithday party on saturday and we were invited. I said that was nice but did not confirm my attendance. He wanted to rent a movie so we did. After coming home he began to speak negatively about how everything he does fails, how he tryn so hard to do the right things and bad things keep happening to him. How he did not know was right or wrong anymore. I was tired of hearing the pity party so I told him that he needed to make some decisions in his life and stick too them. That he's an adult and he knows right from wrong. Then I went to bed.
I was sure H was upset with me after my last words to him last night but This morning H hung around with small talk. Talked about how he wanted to do better in his business and his finances. He also said he wants to do better with the yard work and house repairs. I said those were good ideas and he should focus more on his business and finances. Put a plan into action and stick with it. H then brought up plans for tonight and reiterated he wanted us to go together and also wanted us to attend a family function on his side which he has not participated in a while. He mentioned he had to leave for work several times and my reply was always, okay. Finally, he said he needed to leave and asked for a kiss. I obliged but made sure I was not initiating.
