My M can be saved, but I need your help/advice!!!

[ericmsant2]

MIR,

The past few weeks have been amazing compared to the recollections of things to when the EA/PA began.

And THIS ^^^ is why I say the timing of WHEN you confront is critical. I never, nor ever will, promote NEVER confronting. It was the timing and manner in HOW you did it that was, IMO, critical. Only YOU know when that timing is right. Confront you must, in order for any possibly of reconciliation to occur, that appears to not be in question here...the timing and reason for the confrontation is key.

I do want them to have a positive effect on my W's outlook at me and I want her to realize i AM the better choice. the problem as someone else mentioned is getting her to believe they are 100% for real, because I already know they are.....

What is even cooler…is when it NO LONGER matter what She or anyone else thinks about your changes. Cause YOU are totally cool with them.

but you all have helped me devise a game plan for myself that I am comfortable with for my own mental and emotional health, let alone physical (which yes has taken a hit).

And that was the point of the feedback. At the end of the day, YOU need to feel comfortable how you proceed.

Not MY advice (you need to consider EVERYONE's, on all sides, and formulate your own plan) -- but acting, PERIOD.

Well said Starsky….well said.


Oh and FTR, I liked your Scenario 4 Starsky…with on caveat …when MIR is ready…he gathers his…….