I would drive myself crazy if I went down the snooping/PI route. Also, when would I decide I had enough information?
It's enough to know that the M is in trouble and it's all on you to fix it. If there's some kind of affair you're going to find out eventually whether you snoop or not. But if you snoop and H finds out, that can be a huge setback.
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A positive this morning: H called up to me by saying, "Wifey". He used to call me that when we first got married and it's always been used affectionately. I was really pleased.
That's great! Baby step!
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I have been better with WOA. He picked D15 up at midnight from school last night and I said how lucky D15 was to have a father like him.
Good job, straight out of 5LL Keep it up!
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I've also been better at listening to his views on current affairs. He likes to hold forth and it's not really my thing but I've been listening because I realise that he enjoys it and if I'm not listening, I'm sure someone else will!
Great, you're getting the hang of DB'ing Our MC went into how we should be interested in our spouse's interests even if it's not our thing. That's something that's always annoyed me about my W, she doesn't care a bit about my hobbies and really discouraged me from talking about them. The C said her H is into cars (I am too) and so she goes to car shows with him not because she cares about cars (she doesn't really), but because she likes seeing him enjoy something that much. She said she had to fake it at first, but she couldn't help but eventually become interested in something he liked so much. I think that's a great example!
Keep it up!
