My Story WAW due to Gaming Addiction

[twisted9999]

This week has been kinda wierd. Have had a little contact with my wife. Mostly about her grandma and how she is doing after her hip surgery. We also talked about our lawsuit with the house and how we should just settle to try and get some kind of relief financially for both of us since we are both struggling.

I also started a facebook account 3 days ago....i know what took me so long.....I started inviting all my friends and family and building up my friend list. I know I should not have done it but I requested friends with my wife. We have mutual friends so its not like i could not see her wall but whatever. She accepted the friendship. Then last night out of the blue she just unfriended me. I was not mad but kind of confused. Her reason was that she did not want "My" family being in her business and that if she allowed them to view her page it might make them angry and she has enough problems with her own family. She says my family never liked her and didnt want them being able to see what she is up to. My response was "i understand why you feel that way my family can sometimes be very hard to get along with". I didnt agree with her that my family hates her just they are hard to get along with......still working on the responses....

My wife is still pursueing the other guy hard. Last contact through facebook was her asking questions about the TV and how to set it up with rabbit ears so they can watch some channels. she then went on talking about her family being critical of her and telling her she is going to ruin her kids lives by leaving me. She follows this up with having another computer question but didnt want to ask through FB but instead gave him her number so he could call her. He has not called her based off the phone records and it has been 2 days.

This guy kind of seems nonchalant about the whole situation. He is not initiating conversation. Only responding to her questions. Also, this dude is completely unattractive and constantly post about what kind of alcohol he want to drink that night (once again she hates alcohol and is uncomfortable around drunk people due to her abusive alcoholic father). To the women out there is this attractive to you?

I know that I should not be snooping and it will not help the situation, part of me wants to know so I can be prepared and once she actually comes out and tells me it would make it easier for me not to react because i have been knowing for weeks now. I honestly feel sorry for her. She is so confused right now she would run into the arms of anyone that is not me. It is so true about what they say about WAW....they rationalize their decision and make the LBS a villian. Although she treats me nice sometimes, she also will completely do a 180 and go back to being standoffish and cold. She is trying so hard to keep this relationship secret from everyone but her "close friends" (friends who agree with her and have no morals when it comes to relationships). I am not sure what she fears most...that i would hurt me or make her family upset even more at her.

She is such a confusing person right now and honestly i am starting to believe in aliens because I am almost certain they abducted her and replaced her with a evil clone. She goes from asking for my help with the kids over the weekend to 1 day later changing her mind. Or she will be completely open about what she is doing to clearly hiding things from me.

I bet she wishes i would have just stayed the way i was...argumenative, judgemental, and disrespectful to her. It would make her decision so much easier. That person is so far gone and never will come back I truly am happy with the person I have become. I am friendly, personable, helpful, enjoy time wiht the kids. People at work are asking for me to go out on the weekends with them...this never happened before. my outside appearance has changes so much, I always smile, lost weight and am looking good, built up some muscles, run 3+ miles 4+ days a week (i could not run 10 feet before without being winded). I find humor in my situation....It is so bad that it actually is funny...i work 70+ hours a week to make ends meet, my wife hates me and is pursuing another man, people i thought were friends now dont want anything to do with me...it really is a terrible situation but if you let all that get to you it just makes you a misserable person so i choose to find humor in this all and laugh about it. I also look at the positives instead of harping on the negatives.

Next DB coach session is this tuesday....i have alot to talk about the Laurie...